I know I’ve mentioned it before but I have so many good feels about the overwhelming support from people who have reached out to me over recent times.
I’ve also been acutely aware of important people in my life who haven’t made contact or responded to the individual message I sent them sharing my news.
I realise that this is such a monumental shift in my life that has taken many by surprise, and for some people it is going to take a little time to get used to.
This was highlighted to me this morning when a friend from the USA reached out apologising for not messaging earlier. They said it was just taking some time for them to process the news.
I completely understand that.
Some of the people closest to me still say “this is going to take some getting used to” each time i see them.
And that’s okay too. It is a big change for me also, even though it is hands down the best thing I’ve done in my life.
For those of you who perhaps haven’t reached out or responded I’m imagining the reason is probably due to one of the following:
- you are finding it all a bit weird and just don’t know what to write in a message to me
- you’re completely cool with it, that nothing has changed as far as you’re concerned and you felt no need to specifically write a response
- We used to enjoy a friendship but you’ve since moved on and didn’t feel the need to touch on this issue
- you really don’t know me at all, and as such what happens in my life is inconsequential to you
- in the busyness of life and Facebook you may simply have not seen my message
Wherever you’re at is okay, and I won’t take it personally.
If you have wanted to reach out but just weren’t sure what to write I encourage you to simply open conversation in messenger by saying hi, and we can take it from there 🙂
For everyone else who has been so amazing in their support I wanted to discuss a couple of things and answer questions some people have asked me
I’m transgender, which means I identify differently to the gender I was assigned at birth. It has nothing to do with my chromosomes or what is between my legs.
The best thing for me about accepting this and deciding to transition is that I get to finally be me.
The gender dysphoria science is really interesting and proves that being transgender is not just something people make up. In my case it is has always felt like my I had a brain that didn’t match my body … which is a simple concept when you think about it. I find it easier to think in terms of being born with a feminine brain and a masculine body.
Whereas in the past I played the male role because that was what i believed I had to do, the recent acceptance of my feminine identify has allowed me to be truely free.
To deny that transgender people exist (for whatever reason) is like denying the sky is blue. Of course everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but it doesn’t change the fact that WE ARE REAL and that gender dysphoria is a real thing
I have been very surprised at just how many people in my world already have transgender people in their lives. Each time someone has told me about a trans friend, or family member I have been greatly encouraged. I mean, I knew that I wasn’t the only one as trans issues are being discussed more these days thanks to high profile women like Caitlyn Jenner and Laverne Cox. But to learn that there are a number of transgender individuals in my world has been a revelation.
I’ve also been surprised at the number of friends who have reached out and confided in me that they have also struggled with gender dysphoria, and it is humbling to me that my story has inspired them to more confidently assess where they are at in life.
In conclusion (for this post anyway) I realise that some of these concepts are new for some people and that my transition is going to take some time to get used to.
As always, my inbox is open and I’m always happy to answer questions.
Just like the question from my nephew yesterday (Master 7) who wanted to know if I would have to wear a grey wig when I’m 90 😜